“I’m blogging about the kasams I want from my man this Women’s Day with the #SadaSexy activity at BlogAdda”
A grand alliance of two minds, diverse or similar, resulting in holy matrimony is a milestone moment in the lives of mortals. The rituals associated with a South Indian Brahmin wedding is spectacular, awe inspiring, colourful and meaningful. The traditional customs and festivities culminate at the “muhurtham”, the sacred time of tying the knot or “mangalsutra” when the Sanskrit sloka “mangalyam Tantunanena mama jiivana hethuna; kanthe badhnami subhage twam jeeva sarada satam” resonates in the air.(Meaning of the verse: This is a sacred thread and is essential for my long life. I tie this around your neck O maiden having many auspicious attributes. May you live happily for a hundred years with me) . The beauty of this mantra is that it asks for long life for both directly and indirectly! However, this alone does not qualify for the holy union, but the magnificent seven steps or “saptapadi” around the sacred fire, as “Agni”, is considered as the deity who symbolizes purity completes the amalgamation of hearts, bodies and souls!!!
The connotation and significance of the seven steps or “saptapadi” around the holy fire are intense lessons of life that the bride and the groom have to lead together by example. The gist and the essence of the ceremonial seven steps are:
The first step – Duty of the groom to earn and provide a living for couple.
The second step – Building physical, mental, and spiritual powers in order to lead a healthy lifestyle.
The third step – Right and proper means of living so as to increase the wealth of the twosome.
The fourth step – Acquire knowledge, happiness, and harmony by mutual love, respect, understanding, and faith.
The fifth step – To be blessed with healthy, righteous, and brave children for whom the couple will be responsible.
The sixth step – For self-control and longevity.
The seventh step – To be true to each other, loyal and remain life-long companions by this wedlock.
Twenty five glorious years have whizzed past since me and my husband perambulated the sacred fire and in all earnestness lived the “saptapadi’ to the letter! As I sit reminiscing each and every moment of the enchanting and magical journey, embellished with joys and studded with sorrows, painted with a riot of colours and shades of grey, I contemplate on the wedding rituals and their implications two and half decades hence. Radical changes have taken place in our Indian society and mindset that it is only too apt to reframe the sacred seven steps’ meaning to make them more appropriate and relevant to the people at large. I boldly venture to do so and wait with hushed silence on the outcome of the acceptability of the same by the gregarious grooms and blushing brides of today!
The first and foremost step of a vow by the groom to be the sole bread winner and provider for the family, which in today’s inflationary conditions barely suffice and so the oath has to be in plural with cogs of the wheel of marriage agreeing to contribute to the earnings!
The second strapping step could figure more adjectives such as “technological” powers in order to ensure a healthy and updated lifestyle!
The third tremendous step could do with right and proper living, survival and sustenance of the fittest in a highly competitive world that edges out the inadequate and ill adapted!
The fourth filling step with power packed prefixes long deleted from the minds of the protagonists, have to be reintroduced with more zest and vigour, so as to make the twosome more unselfish, charitable and compassionate.
The fifth forcible step is to have children, in plural of course, and raise them as responsible citizens of tomorrow and who will in turn look after the dried leaves ready to fall and not feel them as excess baggage ready to be jettisoned!
The sixth stupendous step, beyond doubt, the need of the failing despicable hour, is self control in lust, desire, greed and avarice. Striving towards prolonging the life span to achieve immortality will never wane in the minds of the Earthlings and I dare not ask for an early exit.
The seventh supreme step has the utmost significance in today’s flippant world full of amorous and hedonistic thoughts and actions, and the magical words have to be reinforced and infused with fresh energy by jubilant silver jubilist like myself!
So, members of the fairer sex, get these timeless promises which are as sacred as the fire, from your partners, to lead a joyful and accomplished life!!!