The warmth of any relationship has powerful manifestations in joy and good health and this relationship could be with anyone – spouse, sibling, pet, family, friends…During life’s troughs, these relationships blossom bringing that zest back into our lives. The spring in our steps, the smile on our faces, the glee in giving back and that elated feeling of belongingness brings a meaning to our lives.
The snug comfort and security with someone close to your heart and who is there by your side during periods of turmoil and trauma is undoubtedly an angel in disguise. The goodness that spills out from a spouse of 25 years of marriage is by no means fathomable especially when the relationship got going out of chance and not out of choice. We are poles apart, like the East and the West but the twain does meet after all!
Maybe, we have spent more time arguing, misunderstanding, altercating and crossing swords at the drop of a hat and then reconciling only to get back at each other. The squabbles over everything, from the minute to the gravest eventually results in restoring harmony bringing in semblance of sanity after hours of sheer madness and calling each other names. The lull before a storm and the calmness after a cyclone has a fair share of serene and sublime warmth that has magic potion to soothe the frayed nerves.
Our personalities are like chalk and cheese, the traits diabolically different, the interests as varied as the Sun and the Moon – one is calm and stoic, the other aggressive and impulsive, an optimist on the one side and a pessimist on the other side with a dash of realistic tendencies thrown in to balance the equation, a combination of a cool as a cucumber guy with a brash, ready to blow the whistle gal, a couple that has links that clatter and clank, yet, despite all the tangent behaviour patterns, we have taken wonderful decisions together, our minds have worked in tandem, in utmost unison and thought many a time in the same direction, have had the same ideologies and belief, faith and togetherness that lubricates the wheel of life to keep it going with sheer joy and glee. Despite all the adversities, disputes, deadlocks and the heated exchanges, the spark and ignition of building the bonhomie and camaraderie happened naturally evolving into a firm bonding with the touchstones of faith, belief and trust.
All relationships mature over time with increased accords of understanding and tolerating each other’s inadequacies along with inter dependence of each other in every sphere of activity. The correlation coefficient of two variables that are indiscreet can be measured with that tool called warm relationship!!!
The super inflated balloon filled with ego gets pin pricked and out flows a rush of emotions bolstered by the warm hug and a smooth caressing of the hair which says it all…a sorry that is told with such intense sincerity is a balm that can heal any wound.